Hello everyone! Today I will continue to share with you a small case of forgiveness and share some miracle ideas in conjunction with this case.
Case background: My daughter comes home for lunch every day during the school year, so my wife and I share the task of picking up and dropping off the children at noon. And the tacit agreement between the two of us is that I pick up and she drops off.
One day, when I picked up the kid and had lunch as is my usual routine, I went to work on something else. But when it was almost time to drop off the kid, I noticed that my wife hadn’t made any move. So I asked her with slight misgivings, ‘Who’s dropping off the kid later?’ My wife replied, ‘You go and drop her off.’ When I heard her answer, I didn’t think much of it. After a while, I called the child and went out. But as I walked down the road, the more I thought about it, the more twisted my heart became, ‘Why should I be the one to send it off again! Why don’t you go?’ When these thoughts came to me, anger also appeared in my heart at the same time. I thought to myself, ‘I’m going to talk to you when I get back home! But this anger didn’t last long before the miracle worker in me woke up to it. Because anger is the very sign that I am convicting others. So I practiced the following forgiveness thinking as I woke up:
It was some old guilt in my subconscious that manifested the incident of her not sending the child. And in this event, this guilt also manifested a perpetrator and a victim, i.e., her who didn’t send the child and me who did. But this guilt even so manifested only happened in a dream of mine, so I have no need to convict her of it, and it is only right that I forgive her for not delivering the child at all. In this way, I can forgive myself for dreaming about this event and being victimised. Thus, there is only purity and innocence, and the Lord and the Holy Spirit are with me.
And so it was that after I defined the event as a manifestation of guilt and forgave the event and the perpetrators and victims thereof, relief and a faint sense of peace appeared in my heart. At the same time, the inspiration of the Holy Spirit came that I didn’t need to question him anymore, it was a non-issue.
But this matter is not over yet, because in the afternoon of that day, I still inadvertently asked her, ‘Why don’t you go to drop off the kid at noon?’ When my wife heard my enquiry, she immediately replied, ‘I washed my hair in the morning, ah, and my hair was still not dry at noon.’ When I heard her reply, the scene of her washing her hair in the morning immediately came to mind. That’s when a sense of relief and secret gratitude appeared in my heart. I was relieved that I had found the reason why she didn’t drop off the kid. And I was glad that I had practised forgiveness in my anger, otherwise I would have attacked her when I got home and she would have attacked me back. A conflict would have been inevitable. And I also know that in times of conflict, I may not hear her real reason for not going to drop off the kid, because the mind caught in conflict sometimes doesn’t express itself at all in the first place.
The above example may be small, but it has a wide range of connotations. Because in relationships, we often get angry about things we don’t yet understand, and sometimes we even get into conflicts by misinterpreting the good intentions of others. So as a Miracle Worker, the best thing we can do when we are angry is to first get a grip on our emotions and then be alert to the forgiveness that dissolves guilt. In this way we not only avoid conflict, but also have the potential to learn at the end of the day what really happened or what others meant with good intentions. These are some of the real-life benefits that forgiveness can bring us.
Finally, with the sharing of this example, I will relate one more law of the ego’s workings:
In interpersonal conflict, a guilt tends to manifest itself as a certain adversity and manifests itself as both the perpetrator and the injured party in that adversity. This is as in the example where I am a victimised party. Then when I am in the role of victim, I tend to be in a state where I have already convicted someone else. This is as in the example where I was alerted to the forgiveness mindset only when I was already angry. This is one of the laws of how the ego operates.
When a guilt manifests as an adversity and puts you through a victim complex, the ego mind has basically kidnapped you, or you wouldn’t be experiencing all sorts of negative emotions. This is an inertial link between the manifestation of guilt and the ego mind. And this link also seems to be a tacit co-operation between them, the purpose of which is so that you can continually project the guilt. This is the reason why A Course in Miracles says that the ego is not easy to deal with, because from time to time we are kidnapped by both the events of the guilt manifestation and the ego’s convicting thinking. Thus, to eliminate their kidnapping, the first thing we need to do is to become aware of our emotions and find the adversity to which they point, and then we can define all these adversity events as manifestations of guilt and forgive them. In this way we not only end the projection of sin, but we also dissolve the subconscious guilt. And there is no problem with defining all of these adversities as manifestations of guilt, because the world is all manifestations of primal guilt, so defining everything in terms of manifestations of guilt is the path to liberation.
Note: Adversity is those things that cause us to feel negative emotions, and the essence of all these things is a victim situation manifested by a certain guilt in our subconscious mind.