Hello everyone! Today we continue to share cases of forgiveness. This case is an upgraded version of the first one and one that I encounter often in my life.
My wife is a particular nag, and every day when she comes home from work, she nags me about people and things in her company. This is because the people and things in her company are really chaotic, and this chaos does cause her a lot of stress. That’s why she releases her stress by nagging, which I am well aware of. But sometimes, because she nags for too long, I also attack her when I forget to forgive. And she? When she senses my attack, it tends to revolve around the phrase “I don’t nag you, I nag someone else do you want me to?” or something like that to counter me. We then enter a state of mutual conviction and attack.
When we get into such an argument, the miracle worker in me tends to wake up to miracle thinking at some point as well. At that time I would first shut my mouth and then I would silently admonish myself to be quiet. Finally when my emotions have calmed down a bit, I will begin to practice the following forgiveness thinking.
Firstly for this incident, I would start by mentally separating the incident of her nagging from the incident of me getting into an argument with her, as these two incidents are two different things in terms of guilt manifestation. Or, to put it another way, her nagging was a manifestation of some guilt in my subconscious. And the argument I had with her was just a derivative result of that guilt manifesting and me continuing to think and act according to my egoic mind. So the first thing I had to do with both incidents was to prioritise them and then forgive them separately.
It was some old guilt in my subconscious that manifested the incident of her nagging me, so the responsibility for this manifestation lies with my old guilt, not with her. And this manifestation also only happened in one of my dreams, which also includes the fact that that body of hers was also just an illusory image that I dreamed up (sometimes, I use dream substitution to aid in forgiveness). Therefore I have no need to convict her, and rightly forgive the fact that this nagging event in the dream never happened at all.
Once I have forgiven the primary event in this way, the secondary event, which was the argument I had with her, will be easier for my mind to forgive. Because the experience of forgiveness is such that once I can find the primary event and forgive it, the knowledge that “the world is just a dream” becomes more solidified in my mind. At that point, the secondary events, that is, the derivative results of the primary event, become easier for me to forgive. Of course, this is a lesson that needs to be learnt first hand. Here is my forgiveness of secondary events:
Since the thing she was nagging me about was a manifestation of my subconscious guilt in my dream, then the incident where I was seduced by the egoic mind and got into an argument with her must have been an illusion as well. This also includes the fact that she is still angry now is just a scene in my dream and doesn’t actually exist. So there is no need for me to continue arguing with her or convicting her again. In this way, I can forgive myself for dreaming these events. Thus, there is only purity and innocence here, and the Lord and the Holy Spirit are with me.
In this way, when I define these “two events” as the manifestation of guilt and the derivation of the manifestation, and forgive them, a sense of relief and a faint sense of peace will be possessed by my heart. At the same time, the inspiration of the Holy Spirit will also appear in my heart, which is: “I don’t need to argue with her anymore, just coax her. I can take the initiative to talk to her about their company.” And just like that, after I launched into miraculous action with that inspiration, the matter passed. That’s the kind of forgiveness I want to share today that goes back to its roots.
If we are able to wake up and forgive (whether it is in the moment, delayed forgiveness, or forgiveness of the past) when we are faced with a life issue where we have been convicted mutually, the best thing we can do is to first perceive our initial negative emotion and find the originating event to which it refers, which we can then define and forgive as a subconscious manifestation of an old guilt. And then, once we have forgiven the originating event, we can then forgive the subsequent paths that have gone astray according to our egoic thinking as derivatives of the same guilt manifestation, which is the route of forgiveness that goes back to the root. And this route of forgiveness will certainly allow us to maximise the dissolution of guilt. For example, in this case, the Holy Spirit will not only help me to dissolve that old guilt, but will also help me to dissolve the new sin that came out of the argument I had with her just now. This is the power of forgiveness and the Holy Spirit’s ability to remove all guilt at once.
Having shared this, if you can understand what I am saying today. Or, you may not be able to understand forgiveness by tracing the root cause until the future, then you may still come up with this thought at that time, “These days, I have found a lot of the originating events by detecting the negative emotions, but I feel that my attachment is still too much, and my fear is too deep, so I still can’t forgive them.” I deeply understand this kind of thinking, and my advice is: don’t be in a hurry, it takes time to learn wisdom, and it takes time to exercise the mind. So everyone can start practising with the small things in life first. In the previous chapter, I have shared the reasons why forgiving small things and big things in life are both equally important. I hope you can refer to it more.
I have already shared 5 life cases for you. From these 5 cases you may be able to see that A Course in Miracles is for doing not for learning, and although learning is also important, doing is real ability. I know that nowadays many miracle students like to work on theories, or they may think that as long as they have learnt and understood the theories, it is called religious practice. But this is not the case. The meaning of religious practice is: not only to learn the theory, but also to apply the theory in life, and applying the theory in life is the most important thing. This is the original meaning of religious practice.