Hello, I am Chong Weiqiang from The Road of Miracle Network..Continued from the preceding part, first there will be illustration of how you face love and hatred relationships between people around you, and then I will talk about the disadvantages of concealment and how to overcome concealment.
In this part, I still use the example of couple quarrel and add a character to the case. The case is as follows:
There is a family of three, a husband, a wife and a 20-year-old child. The husband and the wife are both salary workers. One day, the husband got infatuated with online games. He just played games after coming back home every day. This made his wife upset. Then, a few days later, the wife could not stand it any longer, and then scolded his husband when he played games, “you play games only every day, and ignore me. You go to live with the person within the game if you continue playing! Turn it off now!” When the husband heard this, he immediately got angry and answered, “What’s wrong with my playing games after work? Leave me alone and don’t make troubles”. Then, the wife got angrier, continuing to say: “How long since the last time did you accompany me to go shopping? Now, accompany me to go shopping. If you keep on playing, I will smash the computer”. Then the husband continued to fight back, “smash it, I don’t go”. At that time, the wife saw that attack was useless, and said to the husband, “I wash clothes and cook for you every day. I treat you like the lord every day. Can’t I ask you to accompany me to go shopping?” But the husband continued to fight back and said, “I make money every day and am so tired, you can’t see how hard I work for this family? And you are still not satisfied”. Finally the wife thoroughly got angry, saying, “ok, just play! I will post everything that you and I argue about in “Wechat Moments” (such as twitter) and show your ugly mug to your dad, mom, relatives and friends”. When the husband heard this, he got very angry, saying, “How dare you! If you dare to post it in “Wechat Moments”, and I accompany you to go shopping again, I would be hit to death by car”. So, they began a sustained quarrel, and their child saw them quarrel. This is the end of the story.
I am going to put you directly into the role of the child in this illustration, because the child in this case is facing the love and hatred relationship between his parents.
If you are the child in this case, how do you handle the quarrel between your parents? First, you should practice the idea of true forgiveness and giving innocence. You should think about it in this way: “my parents are just two illusory images that I dream of. The real ones of them are the sons of god, pure and innocent, so the event of their attack against each other doesn’t exist for me or for them”. When you think like that, your parents and you will be a peaceful miracle mind.
Then, you will continue to entrustment of fear, because you will develop some fear because of their quarrel. For example, you may be afraid of living in a hostile environment, or you may be afraid that their constant quarrel will break up the family. So, the practice of entrustment of fear is an imperative part of the practices the role should perform.
Entrustment of fear will teach you to think like this: “if my parents quarrel every day, even if they finally divorce, then I accept it. I accept it. Because none of these circumstances are true; I am not a victim even though I have experienced them”. When you have entrusted the fear like that, you will be in a state of fearless miracle mind, and inspired to do the right thing by that miracle mind. The inspiration is: “you just see their quarrel silently. You don’t have to do anything”.
However, this event will not end immediately due to your practice, because your parents will not stop quarreling because of your silent practices. But the key thing that will happen is that your practice will invite out the Holy Spirit within you, and the intangible Holy Spirit will automatically work in your parents’ minds and give them some inspirations to do the right thing because you have actively practiced the above thoughts. Specifically, your parents will think in the quarrel and after quarrel that “why I quarrel with him/her? There is nothing wrong with him/her. He/she is such a person, and I don’t have to change him/her”. Then, their quarrel will not get worse, and their quarrel will evolve into a harmonious ending. This is the working pattern and function of the Holy Spirit. The principle of this pattern is as follows: when you face the conflict between people around you, if you first practice true forgiveness, give innocence and entrustment, then you can extend the pure innocence into the minds of both parties to the conflict, and the place where there is pure innocence is the holy spirit’s habitat, so the Holy Spirit will automatically operate in the minds of both parties and will give them some correct inspirations to do things due to your practices. At this time, the thinking and actions of both parties in conflict will undergo some positive change (The explanation in this paragraph can be understood with reference to the fourth part.).
To highlight the function of the Holy Spirit, I will show a few more secular solutions to conflicts between other people’s, which will bring you a clear contrast.
1. When you confront the conflict between the people around you, you dissuade both parties from fighting each other and affirm that there are mistakes on both parties, and then you ask both parties to correct their mistakes. This approach represents that you have already convicted both parties.
2. You might take one side and affirm that the other side is wrong. It is also a conviction.
3. You might recognize one party’s sacrifices and demand the other party to change, which is also a conviction.
4. You might try to stop their quarrel by expressing sacrifices. For example, you might say, “I have been nice to both of you. Give me face. Stop fighting”. It is also a conviction.
5. You might try to stop the conflict by attacking both parties. It is also a conviction.
To sum up, the secular approaches cannot resolve conflicts, instead it will lose you in the mode of conviction. Most importantly, you don’t have any ability of evaluation when you face conflict with other people. Because:
1. Conflicts between other people are illusory to you, and the nature of illusion is meaningless and neither right nor wrong.
2. It is impossible for you to fully understand all the causes and historical backgrounds of the conflict, including previous transmigrations of both parties.
3. It is impossible to know there are how many differences between the two parties of a conflict in terms of worldview, outlook on life and values.
4. You can’t evaluate the result of your active dissuasion and correction of these conflicts when (except in the field of work).
So, giving up subjective evaluation is the first step in confronting the conflicts between other people. Then you can practice true forgiveness and giving innocence and entrustment of fear alone. That is enough. You should do what you can do, and that’s all. At that time, the Holy Spirit will automatically work in the minds of “the targets of your practices” and give them some inspirations to do the right things. This is a fixed pattern of facing the conflict between others, which can be summed up as: as long as you do your best, the Holy Spirit will do his best to fulfill his duty of correction. Correcting other people’s conflicts is the duty of the Holy Spirit, not yours. So you don’t have to correct other people’s minds. Unless one party of the conflict actively consults you about a solution to the conflict, you can actively offer some positive advices, but until then, you can be waiting patiently.
These illustrations are the answers to “how you should deal with the love and hatred relationship between those around you”. But you don’t suppose that they are easy to do in life. You might say, “in the future, when my parents quarrel, I will be able to maintain the thinking mode of true forgiveness etc.”Well, this situation might be easier for you. But what if your role isn’t a child? For example:
1. If the child in the case is replaced by the mother of the husband, then you as the mother see that the son and the daughter-in-law quarrel, will it be easy for you to practice the thinking illustrated in this part?
2. If the child in the case is replaced by the father of the wife, you, as the father see your daughter quarrel with your son-in-law, what do you do?
In the world, people are basically more concerned about the next generation, so it is easier to forgive the quarrels between the older generation in life, but not between peers or between the younger generation.Take another example. If your wife and your child quarrel, whose side do you take? Or if your wife and your child, and your parents engages in a dogfight, how do you confront it? So, don’t think the above is easily done.
Next, I am going to try to answer two remaining questions in previous parts, so that you can understand more deeply about the function of the Holy Spirit.
1. When two people in your relationship disagree and you are the final executer, or you are involved in it, you can wait for them to agree before acting. (The remaining question of the fifth part)
I will use a simple example to illustrate it. For example, your family wants to travel abroad. Your wife wants to go toGermany, but your child wants to go toJapan. So, they have divergence. What should you do about it? When this happens, all you can do is to keep on applying the thoughts illustrated in this part. Because your practice will invite out the Holy Spirit, and then this intangible holy spirit will automatically work within their minds, and eventually you will see their divergence be resolved satisfactorily, or you will see other harmonious endings.
2. As for the remaining question in the last part, namely, the affair of “Wechat Moments”（like twitter）, you may ask this question after you accept the punishment: “If my wife posts it in ‘Wechat Moments’ to punish me, I could forgive everyone’s ridicule and accusations, but what should I do if people around me blame my wife? For example, if my parents knew about our quarrel, they would accuse and hate my wife. Then, how should I deal with the bad relationship between them?”
The answer to this question is to apply the thinking illustrated in this part. If your parents start to hate your wife after seeing “Moments”(like twitter), or your parents have a direct conflict with your wife after seeing “Moments”, you can practice the thinking model illustrated in this part before or during the conflict. You can start by forgiving these 3 people and giving them pure innocence, and then practice entrusting fear: “even if the three of them have been attacking each other for a long time, I accept it. I accept it. Because the situation that they hate each other and attack each other does not exist at all, and it is just a dream”. After you practice like this, the Holy Spirit will automatically work in the hearts of them and give them some inspirations to do the right things, and then you will see their bad relationship become a harmonious one. This is the function of the Holy Spirit.
Finally, three more points about the function of the Holy Spirit shall be strengthened:
1. The Holy Spirit can only be invited out by a fearless mind, so when you face conflicts between others, you must practice the thought of entrustment in order to become the fearless miracle mind. This is the absolute premise of inviting out the Holy Spirit. There is no exception.
2. When there is drastic physical conflicts between people around you, or even worse, they pick up some utensils (such as bottles, family tools including kitchen knife, etc.) to fight with each other, then you can stop physical conflict between both parties in the first place provided your own security is guaranteed (if you cannot stop them, you shall ask the police to help prevent or stop their physical conflict by other means). Then, you can practice the thought illustrated in this part.
3. You can actively prevent self-mutilation and suicide by those around you due to conflict, because the body is an important tool to learn the truth for everyone.
In the following, I will begin to talk about the disadvantages of concealment and how to overcome concealment, because this is not only a lesson that you must learn, but also has a certain internal connection with the above explanations.
First of all, the nature of concealment will be defined: concealment is a mode of thinking that keeps the mind in a continual state of guilt and fear, so concealment is the most direct harm to the mind. Then, the form of concealment is defined: when you do something, you consider that you can’t tell someone about that, or can’t tell anyone about that. Finally, several situations that will lead to concealment are presented:
1. You think you have done something that will be attacked and punished by someone, so you are afraid that someone knows about it.
2. You think you have done something to punish someone, but you don’t want them to know about it because you are afraid of being retaliated.
3. In your relationships, a person around you asks you to do something for him, and that is sometimes what you have to do. However, when you do these things, you also consider that you have to conceal it from someone, because if what you do is to be known by someone, you will be attacked and punished.
These three situations basically indicate the connotations of concealment: you have done something wrong that cannot be told to others and plunge youself into fear, mixed with convicting yourself or someone else. So, concealment is another form of conviction. This are the disadvantages of concealment.
Everyone in the world has done more or less things to be concealed, and these concealed things are the root cause of your current pain and annoyance. So, how to overcome concealment becomes a lesson that everyone must learn.
The actual method of overcoming concealment is generally not complicated, that is, before you do something, first you have to ask your heart, after you do it, whether you dare to tell it to all people, all people, no one being excluded. Then, you ask yourself: is there anyone around you who might fiercely object to this thing? If the answer is that you are brave enough to tell it to everyone (that doesn’t mean you should actively tell it to everyone), and no one is against it, do it. If the answer is the opposite, don’t do it. This is the major method to overcome concealment. However, this uncomplicated method is more complex when applied. Therefore, I will explain how to practice overcoming concealment in life according to the three situations just illustrated.
The first situation: “you affirm that you have done something that will be attacked and punished by someone”. In this situation, you can simply apply the method of overcoming concealment, and then you have to consider why you have to do the concealed thing. The answer is so simple that it gives you something you desire. These desirable things sometimes come from physical entertainment, sometimes from mental satisfaction, and sometimes from the lure of money. So, in these situations, if you want to overcome concealment, you have to be willing to let go of these desires. I have illustrated how to let go of the desires, then you can apply the thought of true forgiveness and letting go of needs to dissolve the illusory sense of satisfaction and illusory sense of deprivation. In this way, you will not do this concealed thing.
The second situation: “You think you have done something to punish someone, but you don’t want anyone to know about it”. When you are in this situation, you can simply apply the method of overcoming concealment and then apply the thoughts of true forgiveness etc. to jump out of the conviction mode.
The third situation: “in your relationships, someone around you asks you to do something for him……”. In this situation, you can deal with it by inviting the Holy Spirit in co-ordination with the way to overcome concealment. I am going to illustrate this handling method by the example I have just stated, as follows:
Your family wants to travel abroad. Your wife wants to go toGermany, but your child wants to go toJapan. So, the two of them have divergence. At this time, your child secretly said to you, “Dad, you first book the ticket toJapan, do not tell my mother, it doesn’t matter whether she will go”. And your wife also secretly said to you, “Do not care about the child’s request, listen to me, you hurriedly book the ticket toGermany”. What do you do about it? Are you going to buy a plane ticket toJapanorGermany?
When this situation happens, you can combine overcoming concealment with inviting the holy spirit. You should say to your child, “I won’t hide your mother from buying a plane ticket toJapan. You should talk with your mother”. Then you should say the same words to your wife: “I won’t hide your child from buying a plane ticket toGermany. You should talk with your child”. It means you are not going to do anything to conceal, and those words indicate that you have jumped out of their conflict. At this time, you are out of the conflict, and then you can deal with the situation by the practice of inviting out the Holy Spirit illustrated in this part.
There is a saying in the world: “If you want to play a decent guy, you should hide information of both sides, if not, you simply expose information of both sides”. However, this saying in the world cannot resist deliberation. Why do you have to hide information of both sides? That is because when you are involved in the conflict between others, you are certain that someone else’s conception has a certain kind of error, and then you are certain that their conceptions will have some conflict when they are put together, which you don’t want to face. So, you simply cut off their communication to avoid conflict. However, this practice directly reveals: 1. You still convict both sides. 2. You still believe in your own subjective judgment. 3. You still believe in your ability to resolve other people’s conflicts. 4. You are still afraid of some sort of fantasized situation. So, when you are involved in someone else’s conflict, why not jump out of it and hand it to the Holy Spirit?
The three situations above basically cover most of the concealments in the world. To implement the thought of overcoming concealment, you need to practice it in co-ordination with other miracle minds. Therefore, I suggest that you take good command of all the thinking patterns illustrated in previous parts in the first place, especially the practice illustrated in the previous part, before you practice overcoming concealment. Certainly, it won’t be too hard for you to practice overcoming concealment if you can skillfully practice all the miracle minds illustrated above.
Finally, a few more statements on overcoming concealment:
1. The concealment of goodwill in the world can be done. For example, the family members of a terminally ill patient conceal his condition so that he does not despair.
2. The practice of overcoming concealment is not fully applicable to the field of work, because concealment in the field of work is sometimes a rigid professional rule.
3. For relatives and friends beyond your immediate family, if they ask you for some help, for example, they require you to do something for them, or they want to borrow money from you. At this time, you shall consult with your immediate family, especially your spouse, before taking actions，because that allows you to avoid concealment.
The message of the required readings is about to be completed. By the end of this part, I have finished the most common troubles in the world and the thoughts of removing them. In the next part, I will illustrate the last two most common troubles, that is, illness and death. This is the end of this part.
Chong Weiqiang
December 2017