Hello everyone! Today, we will continue to share the forgiveness case for you, and we will also share some miracle ideas around this case.
Background: My daughter usually uses her ipad to play games with her classmates. However, she is still young and does not have strong self-control, so I am usually responsible for urging her to study first and play games later. The way I handle it is: I will give her the ipad to play after she finishes her homework.
One Saturday afternoon. I happened to be going out to run some errands, so there was no way for me to supervise my child to study first and play games later. Therefore, on my way out the door I agreed with my child, ‘I reckon you’ll be doing your homework until 8pm today, so I’ll call your mum at 8pm. If you’ve finished your homework by then, I’ll ask Mum to give you the iapd.’ By 8pm, I called my wife when I saw it was about time and asked if the kid had finished their homework. My wife replied, ‘It’s all done, she’s watching TV!’ Then I said to my wife, ‘Oh, then you can give her the iPAD now! She and I all agreed this afternoon that we would give her the ipad at 8:00 p.m.’ After hearing this, my wife agreed and hung up the phone. I thought to myself it’s okay, she’ll give the ipad to the kid in a while.
However, when I got home at nine o’clock, I realised that things had gone completely wrong for me, because when I walked in the door, my daughter ran to me in tears and asked for my iPad. Because when I walked in the door, my daughter immediately ran to me with a crying voice and asked me for an iPad. Her action of his kind immediately made me confused, but after a moment of confusion, I immediately understood that my wife did not give the child the iPad at eight o’clock. so after I entered the home, I was a little angry and questioned my wife: ‘why did not you give the child the iPad? My wife replied, ‘I saw her watching TV at eight o’clock, so I didn’t give her the iPad. I wanted her to play a little less.’ When the child heard my questioning and her mother’s answer, she burst into tears with a wail. And my wife roared angrily the moment she saw the child crying, ‘What are you crying for, what’s wrong with playing the game a little less? If you howl again, go outside and stay there!’ Finally, when the child heard her mother yelling at her, she wailed again and ran to her own room to cry.
I sat on the couch and watched things come to this point and was speechless because I knew this whole thing was just a misadventure. My wife’s original intention was nothing more than wanting her kid to play less games. And my daughter had forgotten about playing on the ipad because she was watching TV. Then she only remembered that 8pm appointment she had with me after she saw me come home, so the kid felt too aggrieved about playing less games for an hour. This led to her taking out her aggression and blaming her mum by crying. Therefore, I could neither say anything wrong about her mother, nor could I stop the child from crying.
Then just as I was thinking about all of the above and trying to keep my mind clear, the Miracle Worker alerted me to the matter. Then this time I first applied the dream substitution method, i.e., I had not now woken up from that sleep of driving home, and at this moment I had only driven all the way back home from that sleep before I encountered this misadventure. To this point, my wife’s anger and my child’s crying became less real to me when I looked at this again through the lens of a dream. Further, I began the following practice of forgiveness:
It was some old guilt in my subconscious that manifested this misadventure. And in this manifestation I seemed to be a most innocent victim. But even so, it was just a dream of mine. Therefore, there is no need for me to continue blaming either my wife or fearing my child’s venting cries. Simply because they are both a scene in my dream and do not actually exist.
The real me and them never split with the Lord, so it is only right that I forgive this event and the fight between them for never having happened at all, so that I can forgive myself for dreaming about it.
In this way, after I had used the Dream Substitution Method as an aid and had forgiven this event several times, relief and a faint sense of peace appeared in my heart. And at the same time my sanity gradually cleared up. Because before the forgiveness my mind was really confused, I had the emotions of a victim as well as the anger towards my wife and the fear of my child.
Finally, after my mind became lucid, two inspirations of the Holy Spirit followed. One is that I don’t have to bother with my wife anymore, and that I don’t need to bring this up again when it’s in the past. The second was that I was going to give the iPad to my child and let her play with it as much as she wanted, and I knew she would be fine if she played with it for a while. So, after I responded to this with these two inspirations, i.e. I handed the ipad to the kid while I started talking to my wife about something else as if nothing was wrong. My wife’s anger towards my child subsided, and my child stopped crying after a few minutes. Eventually after another half hour the two of them started talking normally and this dark cloud in the sky lifted.
One of the main points I would like to share in the above case is that in the world of the ego, ‘if nothing goes wrong, nothing goes right’. This statement is also the motto of this world of illusion. Because that’s how guilt manifests, it tends to manifest in our lives out of the blue. Therefore as a miracle student, especially in the early stages of our studies, if we want to resolve life issues with forgiveness, then one of the best lessons we can learn is that we can remind ourselves a few more times throughout the day that this world is just a dream. In this way we may be able to move quickly into the practice of forgiveness when life issues come up. And the perception that the world is a dream is always the first ingredient in forgiveness. This is why I share the Dream Substitution Method and keep referring to it.